Take it apart for relationships and make it about jobs. People spend 25+ years “preparing” for and chasing the idea of a job. Only to hate that job when they get it. Then look for jobs again. Get the job. Hate the job and dream with retirement. Then hate retirement. Not everyone of course. Endless cycles trap most in dissatisfaction. Chasing future promises ignores today's reality. Self-awareness breaks the loop.

To love your relationships and your job and have a happy life you have to know who you are and what you want. Grow boundaries and skills and what not. Like an athlete. But there´s no guarantee of anything, no rainbow at the other end, no promise. Fulfillment demands present action, not distant dreams. Athlete-like discipline builds real happiness now. Know your path clearly.

The way to get there is to start on the rainbow and grow on the rainbow: not putting the reward in the future but in the present, starting like you´re already there, but, HERE. This is your future. And moving towards growth without conceding, or doing smart negotiations to increase what you already have. The happiness you can provide to yourself right now matters most. Embrace it fully.

Knowing where you go. Or at least knowing you don't know. In the current schema of things, almost everyone is chasing something they will never get, because they don't have it right now. And right now is the answer. Stop deferring joy for hypothetical futures in jobs or relationships. Build satisfaction today through honest growth and self-knowledge. Right now unlocks everything.